There’s a subscription box group for Female Entrepreneurs that I belong to. I joined it on a whim when I was feeling a bit stuck. Although I haven’t had time for a lot of the free training sessions that have been offered, I appreciate the books, office supplies, tools and other useful stuff that comes with being a member of this elite little society. There’s a Facebook Group and the Founder is taking her wares on Shark Tank since this tiny box has taken off so exponentially. (It went from a small operation she put together in her living room, to a box she’s now outsourcing the curation and delivery of.)
I was overjoyed when I opened last month’s box and out popped Shonda Rhimes’s “The Year of YES! (How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person)” This book has been on my list for a while now and I couldn’t wait to read it. Unfortunately, my schedule is a little crazy, so I resorted to grabbing the Audible download and adding it to my collection as an accompaniment. Yesterday I began reading.
This is MY year of YES.
- YES to putting myself first
- YES to doing the things I’ve always wanted to do before it’s too late
- YES to cultivating meaningful relationships
- YES to knowing that I don’t need to change to be loved
- YES to taking good care of myself and those I care about
- YES to listening to my own inner voice
I’m doing a lot of things that are taking me out of my comfort zone, but for the first time in a really long time I’m also perfectly fine and really happy. Although societal norms dictate that I’m supposed to have been married and popped out a few kids by now, the thought of having someone to answer to (besides my parents) isn’t one I have a desire to explore.
My last boyfriend needed constant reassurance and validation. By the time that relationship ended, you could look at pictures of me and clearly see the life had completely drained from my eyes. Now that I’m getting back on track to becoming the person I’m supposed to be, I refuse to revert to anything resembling that shell of a person. It’s not what I want for myself. I want so much more.
Don’t get me wrong, I WILL say YES to love, but only when I know it’s what’s right for me. It’s never pleasant to fail. And one of the worst failures of all is to have a failed relationship that ruins a lifelong friendship. At least I know that now. Postponing the inevitable is probably what drained the life force from my eyes. The stress and worry of the impending failure weighed a few million tons.
Since then I’ve:
- Started a series of renovations on my house (everything I’ve always wanted to do and HAD to do)
- Complete remodel of guest bathroom
- Partial remodel of master bathroom
- Foundation repair
- HVAC line & box replacement
- Screened in patio with built-in wet bar
- Purchased tickets to the Life Is Beautiful festival in Las Vegas (I went in 2015 BY MYSELF and the lineup was EPIC)
- Went to Raleigh’s FIRST EVER SuperCon
- Saw Jump Little Children and am seeing them again in October
- Saw and met K.Flay!
- Got published in an e-zine!
- Got promoted!
- Saw Bowling for Soup
- Graduated from the FIRST EVER Citizen’s Police Academy
- Went to my first “Great Cover Up”
- Saw Kevin Smith
- Had a Bride featured in Borrowed and Blue
If all goes well, renovations should be finished by my birthday (August 27, fingers crossed) so I should have some great photos to post by then. Otherwise, expect some of the usual stream-of-consciousness ramblings and photos to tide you over.
Most of the things on this list are things I would have held myself back from if I’d stayed in the same place life was going last year. I was disappearing. I was hiding from life. I was shying away from everything I really wanted because my insides were full of conflict and doubt.
- YES to knowing better so I can do better
- YES to saying lots of YES, but knowing when to say NO so that I can take the time to recharge
Just so much YES. It feels so good each time I say it.